About me

My own story didn't begin idyllically either.

I grew up surrounded by family patterns that shaped how I thought about myself, about love and about relationships for a long time. I was given a great deal of love and much that was worth carrying forward, but there were also legacies I had to face consciously as an adult in order to build a different life.

My father wasn't ready for the role of a parent, and his absence stayed with me as a painful wound for many years. For a long time I hoped that one day he would be able to be emotionally present in my life too, but in time I had to accept that this wish would not come true.

On my mother's side I met a different pattern, one passed down through generations. For a long time I experienced that my own path, my decisions and my desires were not always accepted. It was a long process to learn that I don't have to live up to other people's expectations in order to be lovable and worthy.

None of this changed overnight. It took a lot of inner work, painful realisations and conscious decisions to understand that our past shapes us, but it doesn't have to define our future.

Today I see that my parents were also building from their own stories, their own wounds and the patterns they had inherited. That is why I don't look for someone to blame – I look for connections. I believe that once we understand where we come from, we become free to decide what we want to carry forward and what we want to lay down.

I made up my mind that I wanted to break this family pattern that had been passed down through generations.

That this became possible owes a great deal to meeting my husband when I was young. From our very first meeting I felt that with him I could experience something entirely different from what I had known until then. By that time I had already travelled a long way in getting to know myself, and I saw more and more clearly who I am, which values matter to me and what kind of relationship I want to live in. I believe that played an important part in our finding each other.

With him I truly experienced for the first time what it is like when love isn't conditional on measuring up. I didn't have to keep proving myself or be perfect – he loved me for who I am.

During our university years we travelled the world together. Backpacking took us through many countries, cultures and ways of thinking. Those experiences shaped my approach further and confirmed for me that there is always a possibility of living differently from what we experienced as children.

Since our daughter was born, this realisation has taken on an even deeper meaning. Day by day I feel how enormously it matters what patterns a child sees around her, what kind of love she experiences, and how she learns to connect with herself and with others.

I began my career in higher education, teaching economics for five years. But the workings of psychology and of the human soul had fascinated me since childhood. When I encountered coaching, I felt I had finally found the vocation where my own story and my professional knowledge genuinely meet.

I believe self-knowledge is not only about understanding ourselves better. It is also about recognising our family patterns, learning to accept and respect ourselves, and connecting more consciously with the people we love.

I didn't learn this path only from books – I walked it myself.

That is why I created the “Loving well” approach.

I hold that when we change, our relationships change with us. If we are able to recognise and rewrite the patterns we inherited, we can shape not only our own lives – we can pass on a more loving legacy to the next generation.

This is the journey I would like to accompany you on.

Whether you are still searching for yourself or for a partner, whether you are in a relationship, or whether you have already started a family, I believe there is always a way to come closer to ourselves and to each other.